Cheating is breaking the rules of a relationship. If having sex toys is against the rules of your relationship, then it's cheating. Otherwise, it's not. I will say that people who feel threatened enough by sex toys are likely quite insecure, and could benefit from working on their self-esteem. When someone cheats on a partner with an Internet relationship, one of the usual defenses is “We never even touched each other.” If there is nothing physical going on, the argument goes, then I did not really cheat on you. However, certain new high-tech sex toys now make it possible for two people to simulate sex – with . 27 Jul Using a sex toy doesn't count as cheating. Using a sex toy doesn't oh what's the use? No matter how many people take the time to patiently explain that sex toys – being inanimate objects – aren't the same as actual human beings you have sex with, there'll always be a few people who worry that using a.